10 Ways To Fail In Life Almost Guaranteed By Patric Chan

So you want to be successful in life? Is that what you want? Then you better stop failing and become aware of these 10 ways to fail in life.




You see, I've been asked many times for how to achieve success and weird enough, seems like nobody's taking that advice seriously. Then I realized one thing - most people are ALREADY failing before they even got started!



The article I wrote below is slightly controversy compare to the normal goodie-type personal development advice because this is the TRUTH. If I want to keep everyone happy and write about the colorful rainbow, birds chirping, flowers blooming, etc then I should just opens up a nursery home and take care of children. I want to tell you the truth straight to your face because I've been there and heard the garbage lies thrown everywhere.



Avoid these and you'll automatically be on the right track (provided you want to be successful)...



1. Mixing With Losers

It's a guaranteed way to fail in life with this. Whatever you like to do, losers will just tell you it won't work and after some time, you will also become a loser. High five, welcome to the losers' club. ‘Something about losers you should know’ they like to 'recruit' new people and are very comfortable in their shoes. They don't welcome Changes. So when you see someone with any of these two characteristics, you know what you should do.



2. Don't Know What You Want

The most common goal I hear all of the time is, “I want to be rich”. I mean it's fine with that generic goal but the problem is, how rich do you want to be? Or how rich is rich? Put it this way - the methods used to make a million and $3,000 are different. No wonder some people couldn't experience breakthroughs in life because they are playing small for big goals. If you want to make a million, you better put in that level of commitment, bucko.



3. You Want Everything

It's nice to have a lot of things but if you go chasing everything, you get nothing. Let me tell you why - you only have 24 hours a day and you've got to focus on your priorities. I know, I know, you can hire others and so on but the fact is, you've got to want 'something' first to lead to another 'something', then to everything. Make sense?



4. Watching the “Secrets” Way Too Much

I'm not here to criticize Law Of Attractions (LOA) and don't want to receive hate emails. As a matter of fact, I do believe in it and have friends who appeared in the Secrets. But it's a surefire way to fail if you keep on watching the “Secrets” and doing 'attraction' by sitting down on your floor manifesting 3 hours a day. In my point of view, scientifically, Law of Attraction runs on the concept of 'believing'. When you believe you can achieve your goal, you will take actions to actually achieve it but if you don't understand this basic element and think LOA is some sort of miracle remedy, oh boy, you're in for a big surprise for failure.



5. You Don't Truly Know Why You Want Success

Wanting everything is bad enough - but it gets even worse if you don't even know the reason why you're trying to achieve your goal. What's the deal? Without a solid reason, a compelling reason, where are you going to find the motivation and encouragement for you to overcome obstacles? You think it's going to be fun ride to success? Then you haven't been traveling - it's a rocky road, my friend. Most people failed to achieve their goals because they never complete the journey -- they give up half way (or at the beginning) because they cannot see the worth of accomplishments.



6. You Don't Remember Your Roots



The thing I get most irritated about is people who achieved success and never felt gratitude towards those who have helped them. Is it very hard to say, 'thank you'? The law of reciprocity is simple - you return favors to those who helped you in the past. And maybe, they'll help you again in the future. Remember this - it takes more than just you to achieve success, so don't be a jerk.



7. You Think You're Smart

The day you stop learning is the day you stop improving yourself. If you don't want to fail in life, make you sure you stop acting as though you already know everything. The fact is, all successful people are people who continuously learn to be even more successful. They don't stop. Let me put it in this perspective - you don't know what you don't know, you know?



8. You Listen To The Wrong People

I watched this funny movie called, "He Is Just Not That Into You", and it just reaffirmed what I'm about to tell you. At the beginning of the movie, it shows a clip of a boy pushing a girl in the playground because he somehow doesn't like her. He thinks she smells like dog pooh. She cried and asked her mum why did the boy do that to her. And her mum replied, It's because boys do that to girls when they like you. Do yourself a favor, don't get wrong advice. It'll stick in your brain and lead you to make stupid interpretations in life.



9. You Think Short Term

You'll hear this happening often in many 'successful' people's stories -- make a lot of money to lose it all. This probably because they became too comfortable and the other thing is, once you achieve success, you should ride on the wave when the momentum is there. When you think short term, you're only going after the instant pleasure. You must learn to master 'delay gratification' so that you can enjoy your today's labor.



10. You're Blinded With What Is Important In Life

I believe there are only two things that are important in your life - control of time and experiencing happiness. Money, love, big cars, diamonds, etc are the things that contribute to these 2 benchmarks of successes. For instance, if you have money, you don't need to work so that you can have more time to do the things you like. It's not the money that you're trying to get but what the money CAN DO FOR YOU. I know this topic is bigger than one sentence explanation but I guess you get the point. You're a smart fella.



So now you know the 10 ways to fail in life. Question is, are you doing any of these? I'll be BS'ng you if I said I don't. I'm human dude, flesh and blood - I do mistakes too.

But I was fortunate to experience my fair share of success today because I learn powerful lessons from other successful people...



"It's okay to fail and you should fail as many times as you can. That is how you learn but more importantly, you should never give up - each time you get kick dirt in your face, wash your face and 'fight' back'. Don't go crying like a sissy because Mum's not going to come cleaning your face."



Are you ready? Go get your goals.



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Life changing moments...

     I'd like to talk to you today about "Life Changing Moments".  As you read earlier, we had just lost one of our puppies.  This would be considered a life changing moment.  It is a moment in our lives that changes us in some way.  Whether in the way we feel, think or act, it changes the way we live from day to day.  If we change jobs, are expecting or have an addition to our family, move to a new home, these all effect our lives and change the way we live from that moment forward.  We need to make decisions every day, all day long.  Some are conscious and some subconscious.  Every decision we make effects or lives in some way.  Say for instance you decide to take a different way to work today and end up hitting a deer.  Your earlier decision set the coarse for coming events.  Some people believe different things when it comes to what happens in our lives.  Is it karma, luck or maybe fate?  Did we somehow create this situation in our minds and will it to happen?  Ever have a feeling that something was wrong or something bad was going to happen?  Maybe you felt really good and just knew deep down that it was going to be a great day.  Let us take a look at how our decisions effect our ability to achieve success.

* Please note that the following is an opinion or observation and is meant for the reader to make their own conclusions!*

kar·ma   /ˈkɑrmə/

[kahr-muh]



–noun

1. Hinduism, Buddhism . action, seen as bringing upon oneself inevitable results, good or bad, either in this life or in a reincarnation: in Hinduism one of the means of reaching Brahman. Compare bhakti ( def. 1 ) , jnana.

2. Theosophy . the cosmic principle according to which each person is rewarded or punished in one incarnation according to that person's deeds in the previous incarnation.

3. fate; destiny.

4. the good or bad emanations felt to be generated by someone or something.
 
     Karma, a concept that has been around for centuries.  Many cultures believe that events that happen are caused be things we have done or not done.  Good or bad, karma has a way of evening things out.  Good deeds lead to prosperity, bad deeds lead to despair and ruin.  I have been doing much research on mind influences and manifestation.  It seems to me that when you believe strongly enough and you focus your energies to achieving what ever it is you want to accomplish, it is bound to happen.  Just as if you constantly worry about something.  If you direct positive energy towards it than a positive solution or result will transpire but if you direct negative energy toward it than the results will come about in an undesirable way.
     I know a college student that comes from Nepal.  Through his experiences you could say that he has great karma.  He has been able to travel the world with different scholarships and is using his knowledge to help a remote village in Nepal to build a school.  He plans on helping them for a year to learn better ways to farm and become more productive.  He is realizing his dreams and making them a reality with the support of many people he has met along the way.  He is a true success and is looking towards a very fulfilling life helping his own people.
 

luck   /lʌk/


[luhk]



–noun

1. the force that seems to operate for good or ill in a person's life, as in shaping circumstances, events, or opportunities: With my luck I'll probably get pneumonia.

2. good fortune; advantage or success, considered as the result of chance: He had no luck finding work.

3. a combination of circumstances, events, etc., operating by chance to bring good or ill to a person: She's had nothing but bad luck all year.

4. some object on which good fortune is supposed to depend: This rabbit's foot is my luck.

—Verb phrases Informal .

5. luck into / onto, to meet, acquire, become, etc., by good luck: She lucked into a great job.

6. luck out, to have an instance or run of exceptionally good luck: He lucked out when he made a hole in one during the tournament.

7. luck upon, to come across by chance: to luck upon a profitable investment.

—Idioms

8. down on one's luck, in unfortunate circumstances; unlucky: She hated to see her old friend so down on her luck.

9. in luck, lucky; fortunate: We were in luck, for the bakery was still open.

10. luck of the draw, the luck one has in or as if in drawing cards.

11. out of luck, unlucky; unfortunate: When it comes to getting World Series tickets, we're usually out of luck.

12. push one's luck, Informal . to try to make too much of an opportunity; go too far. Also, crowd one's luck.

Origin:

1400–50; late ME luk < MD luc, aphetic form of gelucke; c. G. Glück
 
     Luck, can be good or bad and is attributed to chance (see above).  What can I say here, luck is more of an excuse then applicable fact.  It would seem fair to say that luck is created and doesn't just happen.  Bad luck comes about from thoughts of bad things that could happen and when we worry about it that much, it's bound to happen.  Good luck seems to keep on coming when we feel good about what we are doing and the events in are lives are good.  Here again it would be the though process that wills the good things to come into our lives.  When we are experiencing bad luck we tend to blame everyone or everything but ourselves.  Remember that it's our decisions that create the path ahead.
 

 
fate   /feɪt/


[feyt] Show IPA

noun, verb, fat·ed, fat·ing.

–noun

1. something that unavoidably befalls a person; fortune; lot: It is always his fate to be left behind.

2. the universal principle or ultimate agency by which the order of things is presumably prescribed; the decreed cause of events; time: Fate decreed that they would never meet again.

3. that which is inevitably predetermined; destiny: Death is our ineluctable fate.

4. a prophetic declaration of what must be: The oracle pronounced their fate.

5. death, destruction, or ruin.

6. the Fates, Classical Mythology . the three goddesses of destiny, known to the Greeks as the Moerae and to the Romans as the Parcae.

–verb (used with object)

7. to predetermine, as by the decree of fate; destine (used in the passive): a person who was fated to be the savior of the country.


Origin:

1325–75; ME < L fātum utterance, decree of fate, destiny, orig. neut. of fātus, ptp. of fārī to speak
—Can be confused:   fate, fete (see synonym note at this entry ).

—Synonyms

1. karma, kismet; chance, luck. Fate, destiny, doom refer to the idea of a fortune, usually adverse, that is predetermined and inescapable. The three words are frequently interchangeable. Fate stresses the irrationality and impersonal character of events: It was Napoleon's fate to be exiled. The word is often lightly used, however: It was my fate to meet her that very afternoon. Destiny emphasizes the idea of an unalterable course of events, and is often used of a propitious fortune: It was his destiny to save his nation. Doom esp. applies to the final ending, always unhappy or terrible, brought about by destiny or fate: He met his doom bravely. 7. foreordain, preordain.

     Fate or as some call it destiny, is the end of all ends.  People who believe in fate, believe that everything has been predetermined and we have no control over where we are going or where we will end up.  As in Star Wars "It is your destiny".  People who believe in this concept end up living varied lives.  One person may be sheltered and very reserved hoping they are not fated to some doomed life while others will do anything and everything saying "I'm destined for greatness".  Fate is like having someone else pick our path and nothing we say or do will change it.  I believe we make our choices and those choices determine our fate, luck or pending karma.  These will decide if we will create or destroy our chances for success.

Just a quick update...

     First off, I'd like to thank everyone for your kind words and support in this difficult time in our lives.  I thought I would share with you a picture of the beautiful granite head stone we purchased at http://www.plaquemaker.com/.  I give credit where it is due and they provided fast service and created a beautiful, long last peace that will last a lifetime for the memory of our adorable little Samika.

     Also I'd like to share a picture of her final resting place.  I will share more as I create a place for my wife to sit and reminisce.  Samika leaves behind one brother, Bandit, two sisters, Marshmallow and Anna-Belle along with her mother, Snowflake and father, Abecrombie.

The cross was made by my oldest daughter.



     I will hopefully be able to continue with this blog shortly so please visit often and cheers to your future success.  I would like to leave you with one link to a man that has truly inspired me and sends daily video clips that help motivate and energize.  His name is Rich German and I have personally been using his information to Monetize Your Passion.  Please pay his website a visit, you won't be sorry. Monetize Your Passion Free Book Offer

Dedicated to Samika

Samika

April 14, 2010 - September 29, 2010

A special puppy that we will truly miss.

     As I had mentioned in my last posting, life is unexpected and throws many curves at us.  We would have never guessed that we would end up losing a very special member of our family today.  She had been running around playing with her brothers and sisters throughout the day only to be tragically hit by a car.  It had broken both back legs and crushed her pelvis.  She did not whine or cry while on the way to the vet but just kept looking at us with that cute little face maybe thinking everything would be OK.  Unfortunately this was not the case and she was put to sleep to keep from suffering.  We buried her under a tree next to the house so she would always be able to rest in the shade.  My wife had taken the lose very hard since she was her favorite.  We pray that the Lord will watch over her as she moves on to a better place.  5 months is not a long time to live but I feel she had spent them well and knew she was deeply loved to the very end.  We will miss her very, very much... 

Life is too short!

     To start with, it has been some time since my last entry.  As you will find while seeking success, time is a precious commodity.  Time management is very important when it comes to becoming successful.  If you squander your time away on frivolous things, then your life becomes a waste of time and energy.  We are only on this Earth for a short time and it is best to use that time wisely.  Concentrate on what's important in life.  There are many things to enjoy in life such as our family or friends.  I remember someone telling me that I will regret what I haven't done more than what I have done.  At some point in life you may look back and ask "Where did the time go?"  "Why haven't I accomplished anything?"  If you have never seen the movie "The Bucket List" then I suggest you do.  It shows how living our lives to the fullest even when we know there may not be much time left can make our lives more fulfilling.

     So let's grab a pen and paper to start our own "Bucket List".  Why?  Simply put we want to have a list of things would like to accomplish before our time on Earth is up.  Remember, life throws a bunch of curves at us and no one can say for sure if tomorrow will ever come.  You need to take a good long look at the life you have lived so far.  What have I accomplished?  Where do I want to be in the coming months or years?  The list can start out with anything.  Any ideas can be put on the list because we will prioritize it and sort it out later.  This list will bring you on step closer to bringing out your success from within.

     Your list doesn't have to be elaborate.  Keep it simple, specific and genuine.  Things you want, not your spouse, children, boss or even friends.  Again as I had mentioned earlier that the only way to achieve your goals and dreams is to be totally selfish.  When you get what you want good things will come to your loved ones as well.

     Now that we have a list, it is time to prioritize it.  Your list will forever be changing according to your needs, wants and desires.  Look at your list and ask yourself "What do I want first?"  It is possible that on your way to getting that first item you may achieve other things on your list.  You want to clear your mind and envision how you plan to get there.  What is your first step to getting you closer to your goal?  Along with figuring out what you want first is to place a date on it.  When do you want to reach your goal?  Remember to be realistic.  If you know you can get it done in a few weeks don't set the date as tomorrow.  You will only put stress on yourself and be disappointed by unnecessary failure.  You want to get your mind working towards a solution.

     I've mentioned the need for time management.  Well here is what I use to get my thoughts organised and prioritize my goals.  Mark Joyner has developed the most useful tool called Simpleology.  Go to http://www.simpleology.com/ to sign up for free access to Simpleology 101.  I highly recommend this to organise and focus on your goals.  This program gets you thinking on how to achieve your goals and helps you keep on track.  I use this tool everyday and Marks program sets you up with the Web Cockpit which will organise your thoughts and prioritize your daily schedule.  Mark does offer other Simpleology programs that link to and enhance the usefullness of Simpleology 101.  Try it out and please let me know how it has been helping you achieve your success from within.

Starting down the road to success...

The road to success is a long and hard one but by creating small successes we can build up to a larger or huge success. Success is very much like a rollercoaster with many ups, downs, twists and turns.

The one thing that any successful person will tell you is that you need a “DREAM” or strong desire for something to become a true success. Now I’ve been to seminars, meetings and such that talk about the “DREAM”. I remember the first time I attended a function and sat there wondering “Why are we wasting time with this?” I wanted the meat and bones of how to achieve success but didn’t realize that the “DREAM” was the most important part. Success builds on success and all starts with the burning desire to achieve a dream. Having a dream is 90% of the formula to achieve success; the other 10% is the actual work it requires to get there.

We can take the dream and break it down into 3 main ingredients. I practice this very formula and label it P-F-M.

· P – Personal Goal

o You need your very own personal goal. You can not become successful by working towards someone else’s desires.

o Waking up happy and ready to face the day with a smile every morning is a personal goal.

· F – Financial

o You need to visualize a financial figure. An exact amount.

o An extra $1000 a month is a good example. Just saying “I want to make or have more money” won’t work.

· M – Material

o A physical possession.

o A new home or car would be a good example.

Next you need to write them down. It needs to be in writing or they will become vague, forgotten or less meaningful. Post-it notes, pictures or signs of what you want help reinforce the dream and desire to achieve your goals. Once you have them written down you’ll need to set a realistic date to achieve your goals. Placing a date on your goals gives them a sense of priority. If you never set a date then there is now sense of urgency to get what you desire. This defeats the purpose of having a dream. So many people give up on their dreams and settle for the everyday rut that society has set for our culture. I will later give sources for you to explore that will help you better understand the principle of setting goals and achieving your dreams.

As I mentioned before, I have been to many meetings and seminars that show how to become successful. I was in a particular program that made me search deep within myself to unleash my true desires in life. I had set a goal and a date to achieve it. It was not easy but since I wanted it so badly that the pieces just fell into place to bring about a successful conclusion to my goal. What was it you may ask? I wanted to take my family to Disney World in Orlando, Florida.

Money has always been an issue at times but because of my desire to fulfill this dream was so strong; I was able to overcome that obstacle. I managed to set aside the funding needed to have on of the most enjoyable vacations we had ever gone on. I didn’t know how I was going to do it but it happened because I focused on the end result. If you have the why, the how will surely follow. This principle also worked for my family to get a new home in a better area of the country. I didn’t know how I was going to make the move work and get the house I wanted but by setting a deadline and going with my dream I made it happen. I made a decision and stuck with it.

A very important thing to remember about the P-F-M formula is that once you achieve one goal you will need to create another goal to replace it. If you don’t then your life will slowly return to its present state and become stagnant. This has also occurred to me. It is easy to let life distract you from your goals and dreams. It is just as easy to get back on track as well by starting to implement your dreams. Success comes from the dreams we have from within.

Next I will discuss more of my personal experiences and share some of the sources that I have used to discover my “Success from Within”.

Realizing past success...

How does one realize past success? First we must define what success is. Success as defined at http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/success

1. obsolete: OUTCOME, RESULT
2. a: degree or measure of succeeding b: favorable or desired outcome; also the attainment of wealth, favor, or eminence
3. one that succeeds

By this definition, success is NOT always about having tons of money or fancy things. It relates to many different areas of our lives. As we grow up we achieve many successes but never really apply them to building more. If one takes a success and builds on it, the subsequent successes will grow. Even in our daily lives we have success and never realize them. We just take it for granted that it is a natural occurrence and brush it off as everyday living.

How can every day living produce success?

If we look back on how we plan out our day, we can identify our daily successes. If you wanted to take a trip or a vacation, you would plan it. The same is true for success. To be successful one needs to have a plan but it's not just the plan that makes one successful. You must put the plan into action. If you planned your trip and never went, how successful was the trip? It wasn't, because you never put the plan into action. Now if you went on the trip and did the things you wanted and seen the sights you wanted, how successful was your trip? Very, you planned and then executed the plan for a successful conclusion. So you never thought that going on a trip could be considered a success.

Making a list and going shopping is a form of everyday success. If you go to buy a car or a house, find new employment, save money for a rainy day, make repairs, remodel, the list goes on and on. Go ahead, take a few moments to look at your daily life and see what successes you have accomplished lately. Sounds pretty simple doesn't it. If we are successful everyday, why is it so hard to increase our level of success? By building on previous successes you can and will achieve greater success.

Coming up: My own success story...